In psychotherapy, a safe and good alliance between your therapist and you as a patient is important for a good outcome. You should agree on the goals of the therapy and on which methods each party will use to achieve them.
Experience and research have shown that psychotherapy has helped many people manage mental health difficulties such as anxiety, depression, substance use problems, psychotic disorders, sleep problems and low self-esteem. Most of us are used to seeing a doctor when something is wrong. We may be prescribed medication and told to take it easy for a few days. In psychotherapy, you are an active participant in treating the problems you experience.
Psychotherapy is help with self-help
In many ways, psychotherapy is a form of help with self-help, where, through working with a professional therapist, you learn to become your own therapist. The therapist contributes knowledge about what has helped others with similar problems, while you are the expert on how you experience your difficulties and what you think might help.
That is why it is important for your own resources, interests and strengths to come to light and be used. Psychotherapy gives you an opportunity to reflect on who you are, how you are doing, which people matter to you and what you want for them and for yourself.
The collaboration usually takes place through conversations between you and your therapist. At the same time, support from family, friends and colleagues is often very important to the work you do in therapy.
The following questions can provide a good starting point for what takes place in psychotherapy:
- What is troubling you most in your current situation?
- Why are you seeking help?
- What are you satisfied with in your life, and which qualities do you value most in yourself?
- What would your life situation need to be like for you to have a better life, and what do you want for your family and friends, work and leisure time?
- How have you tried to solve your difficulties in the past?
- Can you think of other ways to solve your difficulties, and how can the therapist help you?
Alliance and a sense of safety are important for a good outcome
Outcomes in psychotherapy depend on collaboration characterised by interest, respect and care, and taking place in an atmosphere of understanding, hope and realistic optimism. Treatment outcomes are best when your experiences and wishes are central and when you actively participate in your own treatment.
It is important to believe that change is possible
People who seek psychotherapy often feel that they are “up against a wall”, that is, they do not feel they have good ways to move forward. Feelings of helplessness and uncertainty are common, and this can often feel frightening. Change can have both advantages and disadvantages, and it is natural to feel uncertain. Exploring what motivates you is often part of psychotherapy.
By noticing what you think, feel and do in situations you find difficult, you can better understand what is happening and perhaps also see opportunities for positive change. These may be situations characterised by depression and anxiety, conflicts in relationships with others, or strong feelings that conflict with one another.
Good goals in psychotherapy
Goals in psychotherapy can be long-term. Much of the work in psychotherapy concerns self-esteem, self-confidence, how we view the world and ourselves, and other important issues. Short-term goals are at least as important, such as carrying out specific activities, often things you have been reluctant to do. Working with short-term, concrete goals has proved beneficial, including for achieving longer-term goals.
Sometimes you and your therapist can find ways to practise new skills between sessions. With good planning, you can dare to experiment with your own behavioural patterns and gain new experiences in a safe way.
Mental health difficulties often undermine self-confidence and self-esteem. One example is depression, which is characterised by negativity taking over. You notice your own mistakes and what you feel you cannot manage. Psychotherapy can help you learn to value yourself more. This makes it easier to pursue your own interests and find and spend time with people you enjoy being with and can trust.